This Ted Talk Follows the work of Esther Perel, and her examination of why even people in happy couples cheat. Much of the time what happens, as she describes, is that we have a longing. This longing reflects a longing for a different experience of ourselves. We can become entrenched in patterns of being with ourselves, our relationships, and the way we are in the world, that can impact us in how enlivened we feel in our day to day existence. Esther Perel showcases that if we can address the underlying desire that fuels our behavior towards infidelity, that we can recapitulate ourselves to a more enlivened sense of ourselves, thus negating the need for any affair with another.